Incoming rant - would greatly appreciate anyone’s advice and insight
I’m a second-year medical student + the past year or so has really made me question whether medicine is for me. I derive almost no joy from the study or from the hospital placements despite previously loving going on placement before medical school and wanting to get in for so long. During this year, I spent majority of the time stressing, binge eating, having breakdowns and suicidal thoughts, mentally beating myself up and wanting to quit medicine. At some point during one of the terms, I couldn’t even stand showing up to classes and half-listening (I had to excuse myself in the middle of a tutorial once, just could not cope). During that term, I was so close to just throwing in the towel but managed to hold on only because of the encouragement of some of my lecturers, family/friends. People say that it’s normal to have periods of being extremely unmotivated but I feel that the things that have been happening to me I just can’t put up with anymore.
I’ve not been well for the last few years and I really need to work on my health but I really can’t with the torment of medical school (of which, 75% if not more I’m sure is completely self-inflicted).
People ask me what else I would do instead of medicine but honestly, I have not a clue - because I’ve wanted to do medicine for so long I’ve never even given a Plan B more than a moment’s thought. I’ve never given any other career option a fair go.
I’ve not taken leave for quite a few reasons which I’ll try to explain:
- “Medical school isn’t that bad and if I only tried harder at having a balanced life, it wouldn’t be so bad.” But at the same time, I find medical school to be so draining that I don’t have the energy to properly relax or do stuff that I used to enjoy.
- Because of the way my program is structured, I can’t just take one year off - I have to take two because some courses are only offered every other year.
- Before medical school started, I had recognised that I was really not in a great mental shape but didn’t end up taking the year off because of COVID/not being able to travel/might as well study if I’m to be in lockdown
- Insignificant but also have a bit of fear of missing out (have made some good friends in my grade in med school and would be a bit sad to see our paths diverge)
- Despite all of this, still having good grades
- When I was trying to get into medical school, was already struggling mentally but because of my stubbornness, some hard work and luck managed to get in
- Wanting to do medicine for so long + become, very unhealthily so I might add, my ‘life calling’ so am finding it hard to let go
- If I decide to come back, what if it turns out just as bad as it was before and the leave was just a complete waste
- Maybe medicine is right for me but I’m just in a bit of a rut
- Historically, I’ve been known to work really hard at one thing, burn out/lose interest, quit and go do something else. But that could be just of coping mechanism and a way to constantly achieve and avoid failure so it’s a bit hard to say.
- I had really really loved my time at the hospital when I went on placement a few years ago though and there are some moments during medical school that I thoroughly enjoyed but I think the bad moments have just overshadowed them
- The areas that I am interested in apart from medicine, I don’t think are viable options to sustain myself financially with - love the arts e.g. writing but would only want to do it if I was able to publish what I wanted to.
- One of my tutors, upon hearing this, said that these interests actually go well with medicine - good for empathy (was disappointed - was really hoping she’d tell me to drop out and go do arts)
Reasons I’d like to take leave
- Work on my health and get better
- Grow a personality that isn’t so dependent on medicine, achievements etc.
If I were to take leave I think I’d move out of home, get more independence, find a part-time job in perhaps something completely unrelated to medicine/education/studying for experience, travel, have a break from all the stress + pursue some of my hobbies.*
*Though honestly, I think I could do a good portion of these things whilst still doing medical school?
TLDR: had a terrible time during medical school this year, don’t know if I should take leave or not.